It is Mother's Day here in Australia and it is a day full of emotion for people for many different reasons. Many people look forward to it immensely and will take great pleasure in a day spent with their children and enjoying the appreciation they receive through cards and gifts. However, some people look at it on the calendar with dread as it can bring up many painful emotions.
After years of struggles with infertility I often lost hope that I would get to celebrate this day. I hated the lead up to it as I felt motherhood was a club I would never get an invitation to and it made me devastated to think that. However, today I celebrate my first Mother's day since the arrival of my beautiful daughter and I am very excited and grateful for that. She is far too young to show me appreciation by giving me a card she has written or making me breakfast in bed, but this morning at 4.30am when she reached out her tiny fingers to me, I know she loves me and it is the best feeling in the world.
I just wanted to recognize those people who may also dislike today, as they often get overlooked on days like this. I have seen many great articles this week from people struggling with infertility about how painful this day can be and I completely understand that feeling. I do not know the dictionary definition of a mother offhand but I know it is about sacrifice and a deep, unconditional love and I know that if you go through fertility treatment or are planning to in the future, you are a mother in these terms already. Be proud of the fact that you want a child with such a deep longing that you are prepared to put yourself through so much and keep hope that one day you will get to celebrate this day with your baby, however hard that may be.
Those people who have lost a child do not have their children to hold today and it is not something I could comprehend. I cannot imagine the pain you feel on days like today but you are most definitely a special group of mothers and you are amazing for even getting up every morning in my eyes.
Today is also very painful for people that wish they could celebrate with their own mothers but have sadly lost them. This is also a pain I cannot and do not wish to imagine and I hope you find some comfort today in the memories of your mothers and the happy times you shared with them.
Finally, mothers do not necessarily have to have a human baby. We all know people who have 'furbabies' and who treat them with so much love and attention. Love should not be defined by who it is directed to and motherhood is all about nurturing, love and protection. So to all furbaby mummies have a great day, I am sure those licks will be extra sloppy for you today!