You may or may not have noticed that I have been mostly absent for the last few months. I have had a very tumultuous time personally but I am now looking at the change of year as an opportunity and cannot wait to get back on track.
I just wanted to talk about the new year (which we are now well into!). Obviously resolutions are made by many and are often broken within a few days or weeks. Others see the new year as an opportunity, either to rid ourselves of the bad feelings and experiences we have had in the previous year or to forge ahead with anything that was going positively.
Most people will be filled with optimism but there are also people for who a new year can signify complete uncertainty about what will occur and can create much anxiety. Will they be happy? Will they reach their goals? Will they get what they have always dreamed of?
I think for the infertility community the new year can be a very difficult time. You are reminded that yet again you are saying "this will be our year" or "this time next year we will have a baby" or "next year I'll be pregnant" etc. I clearly remember these phrases repeated over multiple year and it was quite crushing in all honesty. However, you really have no choice but to dust yourself off and really try to believe it, or you will crumble. It is extraordinarily difficult to be positive after so many years of pain but faith is often the only way we survive.
If you are struggling with the turn of the year, I really do know how you feel. I know it is not an easy thing to flick that switch of positivity but we all have to hope that better days are ahead.
My only advice is to take a deep breath, think through problems one step at a time, take each day as it comes and surround yourself with good people who will fully support and love you. Self care (sleeping, eating, exercise etc) is also super important too. Try not to put too much emphasis on having a baby (I know this can be almost impossible) and remember to be grateful for the good things you already have in your life. I know it all sounds cliched but I found it to be the only way I could cope. After all it may have taken six years of renewed hope but one year I really did start the new year pregnant and the next year with my little miracle. I hope this is the year that happens for you too.
Whatever you are wishing for this year, I really hope you get what you are dreaming of. I wish you all the best for 2017.